Your father was a good man, and the apple does not fall far from the tree. He will be remembered. My prayers to your mother and your family in this huge loss. We are all so sad to lose our friend.
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RealLindaL wrote:Brooke, I had written most of this just before your sad notice of your father's death was posted, but am going to send it along anyway; perhaps you'll want to read it at a later date.
It was very kind of you take the time on this most difficult night to fill us in on your dad's decision, and to share some of your feelings. I'm so sorry for your inestimable loss! Please know that your mourning, though deeply painful, honors his memory, just as you honored his wishes in leaving his bedside when he asked.
Your sense that you never told him everything you wanted to -- though terribly tough to bear -- seems almost universal, or at the very least a not-uncommon thing. My own father's been gone almost 26 years, for example, and I still sometimes relive the last times with him, wishing I'd told him (or asked him!) this or that. I was 600 miles away when he died in a coma from complications of stroke, but had seen him only two months prior and knew he was ill; the "should haves" don't easily fade away. I tell you my story only to say you're not alone and to remind you of something you already know - that the ways and means of death and all that entails are rarely within our control. We do the best we can, but what it is, it is.
I hope you can take comfort in knowing you were there for your father and that he exercised his own choice in full knowledge of your love and caring. I don't know but can only imagine it may eventually be hard to recall that he sent you away, but it seems clear that he only wanted you and your mom to remember him in life, and that's for your own sake.
You're obviously a very strong (and very special!) loving daughter. Surely your father's love for and pride in you will remain with you always.
Sending virtual hugs: {{{Brooke}}}
With love and tears,
Linda
Floridatexan wrote:I want you to know, Brooke, that I feel honored to have had just the little contact I shared with your dad. He was a person who renewed my faith on a daily basis. I'm putting this here for you and your family, in honor of your dad:
He lives on in your hearts.
ZVUGKTUBM wrote:Thank you for that. I've never seen my dad so aptly described in words. This is him to a T.
Very nice.Floridatexan wrote:I want you to know, Brooke, that I feel honored to have had just the little contact I shared with your dad. He was a person who renewed my faith on a daily basis. I'm putting this here for you and your family, in honor of your dad:
He lives on in your hearts.
2seaoat wrote:it just gets hard some days.
Wordslinger wrote:Z's movie is over. But from all the comments here, from everyone who honored him, I know it was a wonderful, meaningful and important show. The kind of movie where you leave being a better person for having seen it.
Happy Landings Z.
ZVUGKTUBM wrote:I want to share something with you all that I didn't realize until just a few moments ago.
My niece, Dad's granddaughter, is pregnant and due any day now. In fact, she is at the hospital now and may be in early labor. Her son's name is Zander--something she and her boyfriend chose months ago.
I just referred to the baby as "Z" inadvertently. I realized that baby Z might be born today, a week after Dad's death. I decided I will call him Z and Z man. Maybe Little Z Man for a while. It just fits so well. I'm sure my dad would have done the same.
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