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Gunz wrote:riceme wrote:Gunz wrote:"Threadbear aint into that (he has a wife he loves very much) and I'm no longer into that either."
So homosexuals are not born that way. They can "choose" to not be "into that" any longer.
No, gunz, you don't get to choose. You and I are good friends, and I love ya, but your position on this matter bothers me a lot... 'cause the truth is I've probably slept with more girls than you have! (LOL). I was ALWAYS attracted to both men and women (from the beginning of when I was attracted to anyone at all).
Eventually, a few years before I met my ex-husband, I became so frustrated with the amount of drama, BS and other stuff that always came with the "woman" package, I made a conscious decision to NOT date them seriously anymore. But, who knows?? Love is love. And if I met the right person (finally! ha ha), it would be "right." Even though I made a conscious decision not to date them, that surely doesn't mean that I don't look and think about how much nicer it is to touch, smell and taste a woman compared to y'all ugly ole men (ha ha).
Know what I mean, jellybean?
I know we may never agree on this issue, but it breaks my little heart when I read hateful things you've written about the gay community. Next time before you write something like that, remember you're talking about me, too (although like the recently parted Sally Ride, I use no labels... If someone really pushes me, I jokingly respond that "I'm a TRY-SEXUAL... I'll try ANYTHING at least once!" That usually shuts 'em up.)
Which is why I replied to bob with this.."Bob, I dont find it unnatural at all. Love is a human emotion, no-one decides who they fall in love with it just happens. Some love their own gender ,some do not. Who am I to decide what is right or wrong? My problem before was the sheer number of goddamned threads devoted to it. I was just fuckin with yall with the nekkid comment."
The only gay friend that I ever had was a marine helicopter pilot. We didnt talk about sexual stuff, we just talked and enjoyed being friends. He was killed over there. I'm the last one to have a problem with gays and lesbians rice, I certainly believe in live and let live. Bob confused my irritation with him starting fifteen threads on the subject with me being anti gay. I also believe that if bob can use the words queer, faggot, lezbo and other negative names for gay people then he should not take offense when others use the word. Kinda like blacks using the N word to talk to each other and then going apeshit if a non minority uses it. And Rice, out of respect for you and the beautiful person that you are, I will not use those words anymore.
Aww, darlin'... That eases my lil heart. I ALSO misinterpreted your responses to Bob regarding his tireless PLETHORA of threads about "gayness" in general (see above in bold italics). Irritating, while I love Bob all the same. Regarding the derogatory terms for which some people utilize to refer to the GLBT and "minority" communities, I don't like it when other people use them (regardless of sexual preference or skin color, &c) and I do not use them myself. The exception is that many of my gay friends (male and female) refer to themselves not as "gay," "lesbian" or "bisexual," but as "queer." When I am in their presence, talking to them, or emailing with them, I use the word queer, because in those settings it has no derogatory context, and it is the "label" if you will that they have chosen by which to identify their sexuality.
Regarding your last (bolded) comment,... thank you, dollface. I adore you. It raises the hair on the back of my neck to see my dear friends use those words.
Oh... and my official introduction to the open (and prolific) usage of The N Word was on the first day I moved to Milton from Small Town, Sierra Nevadas. We'd just closed on our home that day, and I ran to the grocery store to pick up a few necessities. As I was rollin' through the bread aisle at a market in Pace, I heard someone yell, "YOU SURE TOLD 'EM, BOB!! YOU DAMN RIGHT TOLE THEM [N-WORD, (plural) TO GET THE F*** OFFA OUR STREET! HIGH FIVE, BROTHER!" I turned around to see them joyously high-fiving and congratulating each other on their fantastic accomplishment. I ran (drove) home crying (I know, I know) to my husband, who thought that someone had assaulted or attacked me (because I just don't cry... not overly emotive in that department). I then told him what had happened and asked, "WHAT HAVE WE DONE??! TO WHAT SORT OF PLACE HAVE WE *MOVED*??" I then began hearing The N Word on a regular basis.
When I asked some friends from work, a black couple, to come out to the house for supper they politely declined, giving each other knowing glances. Then the gal explained to me that they don't "exit off the other side of Escambia Bay Bridge until they get clear of our area heading East" because of the racism they've experienced there. I apologized, then jokingly jibed at them, "THANKS A LOT for *telling us* before we bought a HOME over there!!" And we all laughed. As it happened, it was far more convenient for me to shop in Pensacola, because I worked right near the Publix, Target, etc. on 9-Mile. So, after that, my exposure to the apparent racism in the Milton, Bagdad and Pace areas was pretty limited. Not that it was all that better in Pensacola, but at least I never experienced anyone yelling out The N Word at a grocery store in PNS!
