How far to compromise your values for love and freindship

Chrissy wrote:How do you feel about "holding your feelings inside on certain subjects if you know it is something another you care for would get upset at?

How about defending wrongs? Or even trying to use a little white lie or twist something so it goes in the favor of someone you care about?

How far is it ok to compromise our true inner thoughts and ideas for another person when you really care about this person?

I would enjoy a honest non argumentive discussion on this topic f we could. I struggle with this topic.

Thanks

Joanimaroni wrote:

Chrissy wrote:How do you feel about "holding your feelings inside on certain subjects if you know it is something another you care for would get upset at?

How about defending wrongs? Or even trying to use a little white lie or twist something so it goes in the favor of someone you care about?

How far is it ok to compromise our true inner thoughts and ideas for another person when you really care about this person?

I would enjoy a honest non argumentive discussion on this topic f we could. I struggle with this topic.

Thanks

How do you feel about "holding your feelings inside on certain subjects if you know it is something another you care for would get upset at? 




You asked the question and gave the answer in the same sentence. No ned to upset someone ....let it go if you can.

Chrissy wrote:

Joanimaroni wrote:

Chrissy wrote:How do you feel about "holding your feelings inside on certain subjects if you know it is something another you care for would get upset at?

How about defending wrongs? Or even trying to use a little white lie or twist something so it goes in the favor of someone you care about?

How far is it ok to compromise our true inner thoughts and ideas for another person when you really care about this person?

I would enjoy a honest non argumentive discussion on this topic f we could. I struggle with this topic.

Thanks

How do you feel about "holding your feelings inside on certain subjects if you know it is something another you care for would get upset at? 




You asked the question and gave the answer in the same sentence. No ned to upset someone ....let it go if you can.

Even if it upsets you?

Joanimaroni wrote:

Chrissy wrote:

Joanimaroni wrote:

Chrissy wrote:How do you feel about "holding your feelings inside on certain subjects if you know it is something another you care for would get upset at?

How about defending wrongs? Or even trying to use a little white lie or twist something so it goes in the favor of someone you care about?

How far is it ok to compromise our true inner thoughts and ideas for another person when you really care about this person?

I would enjoy a honest non argumentive discussion on this topic f we could. I struggle with this topic.

Thanks

How do you feel about "holding your feelings inside on certain subjects if you know it is something another you care for would get upset at? 




You asked the question and gave the answer in the same sentence. No ned to upset someone ....let it go if you can.

Even if it upsets you?

Either way someone is going to get upset, right......can you live with it? 

A sacrifice is a loss or something you give up, usually for the sake of a better cause. 

Chrissy wrote:

Joanimaroni wrote:

Chrissy wrote:

Joanimaroni wrote:

Chrissy wrote:How do you feel about "holding your feelings inside on certain subjects if you know it is something another you care for would get upset at?

How about defending wrongs? Or even trying to use a little white lie or twist something so it goes in the favor of someone you care about?

How far is it ok to compromise our true inner thoughts and ideas for another person when you really care about this person?

I would enjoy a honest non argumentive discussion on this topic f we could. I struggle with this topic.

Thanks

How do you feel about "holding your feelings inside on certain subjects if you know it is something another you care for would get upset at? 




You asked the question and gave the answer in the same sentence. No ned to upset someone ....let it go if you can.

Even if it upsets you?

Either way someone is going to get upset, right......can you live with it? 

A sacrifice is a loss or something you give up, usually for the sake of a better cause. 

Don't you think at some point though that over time the millions of tiny sacrifices of where you've held your peace and you might find yourself in a situation where you feel you can longer communicate, because the list of small sacrifices has grown so large. And you have lost a part of who you even are. Because now you have become the silent couch pillow. Pretty, always there and nice to lay on and never too lumpy.

and yes teo, I agree with you 100% my friend. if you are still my friend.

TEOTWAWKI wrote:

Chrissy wrote:

Joanimaroni wrote:

Chrissy wrote:

Joanimaroni wrote:

Chrissy wrote:How do you feel about "holding your feelings inside on certain subjects if you know it is something another you care for would get upset at?

How about defending wrongs? Or even trying to use a little white lie or twist something so it goes in the favor of someone you care about?

How far is it ok to compromise our true inner thoughts and ideas for another person when you really care about this person?

I would enjoy a honest non argumentive discussion on this topic f we could. I struggle with this topic.

Thanks

How do you feel about "holding your feelings inside on certain subjects if you know it is something another you care for would get upset at? 




You asked the question and gave the answer in the same sentence. No ned to upset someone ....let it go if you can.

Even if it upsets you?

Either way someone is going to get upset, right......can you live with it? 

A sacrifice is a loss or something you give up, usually for the sake of a better cause. 

Don't you think at some point though that over time the millions of tiny sacrifices of where you've held your peace and you might find yourself in a situation where you feel you can longer communicate, because the list of small sacrifices has grown so large. And you have lost a part of who you even are. Because now you have become the silent couch pillow. Pretty, always there and nice to lay on and never too lumpy.

and yes teo, I agree with you 100% my friend. if you are still my friend.

Well sure you are my friend even after your kids saw my face on your computer during our Paltalk and screamed in terror...LOL

Chrissy wrote:

TEOTWAWKI wrote:

Chrissy wrote:

Joanimaroni wrote:

Chrissy wrote:

Joanimaroni wrote:

Chrissy wrote:How do you feel about "holding your feelings inside on certain subjects if you know it is something another you care for would get upset at?

How about defending wrongs? Or even trying to use a little white lie or twist something so it goes in the favor of someone you care about?

How far is it ok to compromise our true inner thoughts and ideas for another person when you really care about this person?

I would enjoy a honest non argumentive discussion on this topic f we could. I struggle with this topic.

Thanks

How do you feel about "holding your feelings inside on certain subjects if you know it is something another you care for would get upset at? 




You asked the question and gave the answer in the same sentence. No ned to upset someone ....let it go if you can.

Even if it upsets you?

Either way someone is going to get upset, right......can you live with it? 

A sacrifice is a loss or something you give up, usually for the sake of a better cause. 

Don't you think at some point though that over time the millions of tiny sacrifices of where you've held your peace and you might find yourself in a situation where you feel you can longer communicate, because the list of small sacrifices has grown so large. And you have lost a part of who you even are. Because now you have become the silent couch pillow. Pretty, always there and nice to lay on and never too lumpy.

and yes teo, I agree with you 100% my friend. if you are still my friend.

Well sure you are my friend even after your kids saw my face on your computer during our Paltalk and screamed in terror...LOL

LOL that did not happen did it? LOLOLOLOLOLOL

btw, I was trying to sing you a song and you dumped me. 

Chrissy wrote:

Joanimaroni wrote:

Chrissy wrote:

Joanimaroni wrote:

Chrissy wrote:How do you feel about "holding your feelings inside on certain subjects if you know it is something another you care for would get upset at?

How about defending wrongs? Or even trying to use a little white lie or twist something so it goes in the favor of someone you care about?

How far is it ok to compromise our true inner thoughts and ideas for another person when you really care about this person?

I would enjoy a honest non argumentive discussion on this topic f we could. I struggle with this topic.

Thanks

How do you feel about "holding your feelings inside on certain subjects if you know it is something another you care for would get upset at? 




You asked the question and gave the answer in the same sentence. No ned to upset someone ....let it go if you can.

Even if it upsets you?

Either way someone is going to get upset, right......can you live with it? 

A sacrifice is a loss or something you give up, usually for the sake of a better cause. 

Don't you think at some point though that over time the millions of tiny sacrifices of where you've held your peace and you might find yourself in a situation where you feel you can longer communicate, because the list of small sacrifices has grown so large. And you have lost a part of who you even are. Because now you have become the silent couch pillow. Pretty, always there and nice to lay on and never too lumpy.

and yes teo, I agree with you 100% my friend. if you are still my friend.

Nekochan wrote:

Chrissy wrote:

Joanimaroni wrote:

Chrissy wrote:

Joanimaroni wrote:

Chrissy wrote:How do you feel about "holding your feelings inside on certain subjects if you know it is something another you care for would get upset at?

How about defending wrongs? Or even trying to use a little white lie or twist something so it goes in the favor of someone you care about?

How far is it ok to compromise our true inner thoughts and ideas for another person when you really care about this person?

I would enjoy a honest non argumentive discussion on this topic f we could. I struggle with this topic.

Thanks

How do you feel about "holding your feelings inside on certain subjects if you know it is something another you care for would get upset at? 




You asked the question and gave the answer in the same sentence. No ned to upset someone ....let it go if you can.

Even if it upsets you?

Either way someone is going to get upset, right......can you live with it? 

A sacrifice is a loss or something you give up, usually for the sake of a better cause. 

Don't you think at some point though that over time the millions of tiny sacrifices of where you've held your peace and you might find yourself in a situation where you feel you can longer communicate, because the list of small sacrifices has grown so large. And you have lost a part of who you even are. Because now you have become the silent couch pillow. Pretty, always there and nice to lay on and never too lumpy.

and yes teo, I agree with you 100% my friend. if you are still my friend.

If you feel like it's all one-sided and that you're making all the little sacrifices in the relationship while the other person makes none, you are likely to end up feeling resentful.  Friendship and love is about both people caring about each other and each other's needs.

Chrissy wrote:

Nekochan wrote:

Chrissy wrote:

Joanimaroni wrote:

Chrissy wrote:

Joanimaroni wrote:

Chrissy wrote:How do you feel about "holding your feelings inside on certain subjects if you know it is something another you care for would get upset at?

How about defending wrongs? Or even trying to use a little white lie or twist something so it goes in the favor of someone you care about?

How far is it ok to compromise our true inner thoughts and ideas for another person when you really care about this person?

I would enjoy a honest non argumentive discussion on this topic f we could. I struggle with this topic.

Thanks

How do you feel about "holding your feelings inside on certain subjects if you know it is something another you care for would get upset at? 




You asked the question and gave the answer in the same sentence. No ned to upset someone ....let it go if you can.

Even if it upsets you?

Either way someone is going to get upset, right......can you live with it? 

A sacrifice is a loss or something you give up, usually for the sake of a better cause. 

Don't you think at some point though that over time the millions of tiny sacrifices of where you've held your peace and you might find yourself in a situation where you feel you can longer communicate, because the list of small sacrifices has grown so large. And you have lost a part of who you even are. Because now you have become the silent couch pillow. Pretty, always there and nice to lay on and never too lumpy.

and yes teo, I agree with you 100% my friend. if you are still my friend.

If you feel like it's all one-sided and that you're making all the little sacrifices in the relationship while the other person makes none, you are likely to end up feeling resentful.  Friendship and love is about both people caring about each other and each other's needs.

Oh its not my gf, or any one particular person.

I feel like the older I get the less fight Im willing to put up. even on things that I really believe in. I think im just tired.

In my old chrissy fashion that DE ended up stealing from me without even knowing it LOL... Ill say good night for now. hugs

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sf3pc-7gfOg

 

Markle wrote:Two of my closest, oldest friends are...choke...Progressives.  We simply avoid the topic of politics.  My wife reigns me in if I start to get a little carried away at dinners or other gatherings.

I have always been curious how James Carville and Mary Matalin make it work.  They are about as opposite as two people can be on the political spectrum, were married in 1993 and have two daughters.  They left Virginia a few years ago and now live in New Orleans.

Slicef18 wrote:

Markle wrote:Two of my closest, oldest friends are...choke...Progressives.  We simply avoid the topic of politics.  My wife reigns me in if I start to get a little carried away at dinners or other gatherings.

I have always been curious how James Carville and Mary Matalin make it work.  They are about as opposite as two people can be on the political spectrum, were married in 1993 and have two daughters.  They left Virginia a few years ago and now live in New Orleans.

When it comes to difficult topics the first question to ask self is, "Does this person need to know or is the desire to discuss for self. Also, timing is very important when discussing a delicate subject. Meal time is a poor time for emotion laden topics. The other person is left with a double dose of discomfort. First they receive energy laden information. Second, their food sets in the pit of their stomach like a lead gob.

Nekochan wrote:What if someone you love is doing something that doesn't hurt anyone but that you disapprove of?

TEOTWAWKI wrote:

Nekochan wrote:What if someone you love is doing something that doesn't hurt anyone but that you disapprove of?

We covered masturbating last week...

TEOTWAWKI wrote:

Nekochan wrote:What if someone you love is doing something that doesn't hurt anyone but that you disapprove of?

We covered masturbating last week...

Joanimaroni wrote:

TEOTWAWKI wrote:

Nekochan wrote:What if someone you love is doing something that doesn't hurt anyone but that you disapprove of?

We covered masturbating last week...

Did it include blindness?

Joanimaroni wrote:

TEOTWAWKI wrote:

Nekochan wrote:What if someone you love is doing something that doesn't hurt anyone but that you disapprove of?

We covered masturbating last week...

Did it include blindness?