Ok.....this is not going to be an exciting thread, but it is a problem that my wife and I have discussed. When we are over we see inconsistent discipline on the kids. Earlier this week I was coloring with my two granddaughters and I did not realize that I was not supposed to give the year and a half old color markers, rather only crayons. Well, I was using the markers with the four year old when the little one came up and made a lot of noise that she wanted to join us in coloring.....so I gave her a colored marker.....geez my wife barks at me....the four year old barks at me.......Abby cannot have markers.....so I take it back and she now has a fit. Her dad comes over......he scolds me for giving her a marker, and then tells her she has a time out which involves sitting on the stairs.......well sweet little abby sits down.....screaming at the top of her lungs that she is now being punished.....and gets up from the stairs and takes two steps toward her dad swinging away trying to hit him...she misses, and then the funniest thing I have ever seen.....she starts spitting at her dad, and giving him the most belligerent glare I have ever seen from a child.....from across the room I just start laughing uncontrollably.....where I am immediately met with my wife telling me to be quiet and quit laughing..........the moral of the story is......well I believe this time out stuff is crap.......I sent my kids up to their room and told them I would be up there in five minutes to discuss punishment which may involve a spanking. They would cry all the way up to their room, I would always wait five minutes so what ever triggered the discipline could cool off.....I would talk to them about how many spanks they should get if any...(an open hand on their buttocks over my knee) and then afterwards I would explain that I hate giving a spanking and if they could help me avoid it.
My daughter does not believe in spanking and she is starting to have inappropriate behavior from the kids which I believe starts with her husband being inconsistent with his punishments......So do you have this discussion with your kids now that they are parents......or do you stay silent?
My daughter does not believe in spanking and she is starting to have inappropriate behavior from the kids which I believe starts with her husband being inconsistent with his punishments......So do you have this discussion with your kids now that they are parents......or do you stay silent?