http://www.latimes.com/opinion/op-ed/la-oe-0115-zuckerman-secular-parenting-20150115-story.html
Interesting findings
Interesting findings
nadalfan wrote:http://www.latimes.com/opinion/op-ed/la-oe-0115-zuckerman-secular-parenting-20150115-story.html
Interesting findings
SheWrites wrote:My parents raised me in a home where we did not attend church but they set standards that were based on Christian principle. The "golden rule" is only a paraphrase of many guiding verses that can be found in other religions besides Christianity.
I would love to know what "secular" thoughts they are using that are so different from what a Christ follower would live by. Not talking about congregational traditions but those guiding principles. What are they? How do they differ from basic truths taught by Jesus?
SheWrites wrote:My parents raised me in a home where we did not attend church but they set standards that were based on Christian principle. The "golden rule" is only a paraphrase of many guiding verses that can be found in other religions besides Christianity.
I would love to know what "secular" thoughts they are using that are so different from what a Christ follower would live by. Not talking about congregational traditions but those guiding principles. What are they? How do they differ from basic truths taught by Jesus?
nadalfan wrote:SheWrites wrote:My parents raised me in a home where we did not attend church but they set standards that were based on Christian principle. The "golden rule" is only a paraphrase of many guiding verses that can be found in other religions besides Christianity.
I would love to know what "secular" thoughts they are using that are so different from what a Christ follower would live by. Not talking about congregational traditions but those guiding principles. What are they? How do they differ from basic truths taught by Jesus?
What I found interesting is that while they may be taught the same guiding principles, those that are secular appear to follow them to a greater degree than those that report a religious upbringing.
And I grew up in a "normal" Catholic home. It was not based on the things you listed. We were raised in a christian enviroment centered around love of family.Vikingwoman wrote:I grew up in a Catholic home where fear,terror,guilt and abuse were the norm all based on religion. I chose to raise my children w/o religion so they would have a fighting chance of being happy and well adjusted people.
Vikingwoman wrote:I grew up in a Catholic home where fear,terror,guilt and abuse were the norm all based on religion. I chose to raise my children w/o religion so they would have a fighting chance of being happy and well adjusted people.
Joanimaroni wrote:And I grew up in a "normal" Catholic home. It was not based on the things you listed. We were raised in a christian enviroment centered around love of family.Vikingwoman wrote:I grew up in a Catholic home where fear,terror,guilt and abuse were the norm all based on religion. I chose to raise my children w/o religion so they would have a fighting chance of being happy and well adjusted people.
Wow I understand some of your sharp edges now Dreams....I am sorry you had to grow up like that.....Glad I wasn't Catholic, I had a lot of bad thoughts. I would have never gotten out of the confessional.Vikingwoman wrote:Joanimaroni wrote:And I grew up in a "normal" Catholic home. It was not based on the things you listed. We were raised in a christian enviroment centered around love of family.Vikingwoman wrote:I grew up in a Catholic home where fear,terror,guilt and abuse were the norm all based on religion. I chose to raise my children w/o religion so they would have a fighting chance of being happy and well adjusted people.
If you call being told you were going to hell regularly,babies were going to pergatory, you will be blinded for mastubating,confessing every bad thought and being made to feel guilty for normal human desires and being slapped and your hair pulled by sisters a loving environment no wonder you're so dysfunctional.
Vikingwoman wrote:Hey if you weren't feeling guilty about something you were worrying about frying in hell. Poor little innocent babies who were born and died w/o being baptised were forever to languish in purgatory. Physical abuse was very common as well as verbal by the diocese and accepted by the parents. You were crucified if you had sex outside of marriage and worst of all you had to stay married to whatever evil bastard you married no matter how bad he treated you or your children. A very sad and damaging religion.
Pope Benedict XVI authorized publication of this document, indicating that he considers it consistent with the Church's teaching, though it is not an official expression of that teaching.[size=12][33] Media reports that by the document "the Pope closed Limbo"[34] are thus without foundation.[/size]What has been revealed to us is that the ordinary way of salvation is by the sacrament of baptism. None of the above considerations should be taken as qualifying the necessity of baptism or justifying delay in administering the sacrament. Rather, as we want to reaffirm in conclusion, they provide strong grounds for hope that God will save infants when we have not been able to do for them what we would have wished to do, namely, to baptize them into the faith and life of the Church.
Vikingwoman wrote:I think it's pretty well known the atrocities of the Catholic Church and it's teachings. Joani can try and minimize them all she wants but there are too many people who have experienced the abuses. The recent movie "Philomena" depicts what happened to teenage girls who got pregnant in the church. Their children were taken from them and adopted out at the age of three as it was a mortal sin. The facts are they terrorize little children and people w/ their bizarre and made up fantasies. Praying to this statute and that statute of ordinary people they made out to be saints.
Personally, I don't need some prophet of the times elevated to a God to tell me to be kind to others. I can figure that out all by myself. It's called a conscience and most people have them with or without religion.
Oh yes they did!!!! They were homes and adoption agencies.Vikingwoman wrote:What you don't understand is the other unwed homes did not take their children from them and adopt them out to Americans. Furthermore, expressing my opinion on Catholicism from my experiences doesn't make me bitter and hateful. Just truthful. Something you have serious problems with.
SheWrites wrote:True, Joani. Those records were sealed, too. I have a family member who tried her best to find the baby her parents made her give up. It was in a "secular" home for unwed mothers. When she approached them after the bans were lifted on finding birth parents they said the records had been lost.
Very sad.
It was a way of life regardless of denomination.
Joanimaroni wrote:SheWrites wrote:True, Joani. Those records were sealed, too. I have a family member who tried her best to find the baby her parents made her give up. It was in a "secular" home for unwed mothers. When she approached them after the bans were lifted on finding birth parents they said the records had been lost.
Very sad.
It was a way of life regardless of denomination.
It was also a social stigma and economical hardship.
Online you can find blog's written where mothers and children are looking for their biological family.....after having been adopted out of homes for unwed mothers.
SheWrites wrote:Joanimaroni wrote:SheWrites wrote:True, Joani. Those records were sealed, too. I have a family member who tried her best to find the baby her parents made her give up. It was in a "secular" home for unwed mothers. When she approached them after the bans were lifted on finding birth parents they said the records had been lost.
Very sad.
It was a way of life regardless of denomination.
It was also a social stigma and economical hardship.
Online you can find blog's written where mothers and children are looking for their biological family.....after having been adopted out of homes for unwed mothers.
It was definitely a time when "such things" were brushed under the rug. I'm happy that my family member made peace with the situation and her parents. Otherwise the hate would have eaten her alive. Unfortunate things absolutely do happen to good people. We still have to forgive and march forward. To hold the anger and continue to blame is not healthy. Next time I visit her I will suggest the blog route for her in the, for now, dead end search for the child.
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