I will be saying my goodbyes now

I have been very open about this journey as we each will find an end to this life which I have hoped in my journey will make each of yours easier. There is nothing more I can say that this chart will not say better. I can still linger on for months, but the quality of life I have enjoyed for 9 years is rapidly changing. I remain as happy as I have ever been, but the cognitive decline will soon rapidly begin, so my posting will be a bit more infrequent. I will not participate in Chemo embolization which with Endocrine cancer is simply putting a cover on a boiling pot......it will give me no more than three months of life. The pain is returning and I am having difficulty sleeping which will probably require my use of opiates and a cessation of posting. I will post again and there is absolutely nothing to be sad about because I am a blessed man.

Damn, man. I'm sorry you're going through this, but you're taking it with a lot of bravery.

I'm sure sorry too. I appreciate very much your sharing time with us... both through this process and the discussions. It's been fun butting heads. I hope you can find a way to comfort your family too.

Fair winds friend.

I am happy to have been a posting friend of yours. I will always admire you and your lifestyle. You have given of yourself to your family, your work, your friends, and your communities.

In an unselfish way, you my friend, have given so much to make life better for so many others. I am not ready to see you go but I hope to see you posting as long as possible. Even if you use your phone to dictate short messages, it will be welcomed and something for me to look forward to reading.

Please take your medication as needed so you will be able to rest without discomfort. My prayers are for you, Mrs. Oat, your son, daughter and especially your precious grandchildren. I pray for an easy comforting transition.


My love to you and your family.

A sad day. My prayers for you and your family and I hope you are right with the Lord. If you're not, it's not too late. I

Damn I hate cancer.

Seaoat, you're a mess and it's always been a pleasure to read the banter. I think Joani has said it all.

Prayers for comfort and peace for you and your family. But I'm also praying your body will enjoy no pain but the brain has the ability to still spar with us? Is that selfish?


Take care. See you over yonder. It's been a pleasure.

I agree with Hallmark that it's impossible not to be sad, Sea.  

Somehow what I find myself hoping tonight is that you'll do your immediate family the honor of trusting them with your real and true feelings, now as never before.  Still, I know you have to do things your own way...and I'm genuinely glad if you're feeling happy and at peace, even in the face of your increasing pain.  Certainly you have fought the good fight.

You and I have conversed and/or sparred on and off for well over a decade, and it's been an interesting and enlightening experience, to say the least.  Despite some moments of anger, there's no question that the forum has been immeasurably enriched by your faithful contributions on many subjects, and it will absolutely never be the same without your unique perspective.  

I'm certain we all hope that, on your remaining good days, you may indeed find the wherewithal to check in with us now and again, whether to post thoughts or even just to say hello.  You don't have to be impressive, you know.  We're already well aware of what you're capable of, thanks to all the many stories, projects, thoughts and ideas you've generously (and prolifically!) shared with us over the years.

So please do what you need to do to be comfortable, Sea.  Everyone who cares for you wants nothing more than your ease and comfort as you gradually complete this journey on Earth.

Go well, old man.  This old woman will miss you.

Go well, old man. This old woman will miss you.

Linda, with your permission may I modify this touching phrase (of yours) to simply read this old man will miss you?

It's too early to tear up but this is traumatic for many of us . . . . . I truly enjoyed reading Mr. Oats' insights/perspective/opinions and came to respect his willingness to defend his position(s) defiantly yet with class , I mean who says chit?

Thank you sir and hope you will continue to post updates for us or allow Mrs. seaoat to do it for you . . . . otherwise I stand with HM and Linda and associate myself with their dignified insightful remarks.

Very sorry to hear this news.

I am sorry to hear this also. What am I going to do? I won't have anyone to argue with. Is this sudden news? I thought you had a good while? It won't be the same here when you're gone. Are you planning on going to the end w/ just pain pills or are you going to a hospice?

Sorry to hear this oat. See you possibly on the other side in another forum and if there is one I'm sure you will participate.

Have you tried cannabis food or oil?