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1 phase 1 of project is complete on Thu Mar 15, 2018 1:45 pm

The stress level of hard work and failing health has made this last year very difficult. We have hand cut and cleaned up the area of phase 1 of our project, and my wife can decide to sell the property after I pass as there are no loose ends. The project was largely responsible for me still being here. Two years ago I would take my bobcat down with my dump truck and build the roads and clear and plant grass or sod. We still have about six pallets of sod to put down, and we have a quote on somebody doing the labor on the same. I enjoyed the satisfaction of sodding and clearing which at the end of the day gave a person a great deal of satisfaction.

My wife will post the address of the project and invite anybody to walk around the property to see what two old people accomplished. Two years ago I would chain saw, sit down and rest, and chain saw some more. It was important that we did these things by hand so as not to damage the grove of live oaks on the property. We repaired the plumbing in the Park Model where a rodent had chewed it up, and got the furnace and water heater serviced and working great. I just wish I could have lived another year to enjoy next winter just chilling out and going out in a boat and fishing......will not happen, but with all the frustration of the last two months as I became to weak to really contribute much other than painting and clearing......we both will celebrate that when we return to Illinois on Sunday, we have carved out a beautiful natural setting for somebody in the future to enjoy. I think about granite headstones telling maybe ten people in a hundred years who you were.....this project and my projects in Illinois tell the complete story of who I was, and the great life partner who shared my adventures.

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2 Re: phase 1 of project is complete on Thu Mar 15, 2018 2:00 pm

Nice story. I still don't like the resignation that I hear. It's going to be beautiful this weekend.

Basketball

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3 Re: phase 1 of project is complete on Thu Mar 15, 2018 5:07 pm

He's just being realistic.

And yes, it's a BEAUTIFUL story.

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4 Re: phase 1 of project is complete on Thu Mar 15, 2018 5:21 pm

The things people do and that they leave behind live on long after them.  You can be proud that what you've left behind is something good and beautiful.  Well done, sir.

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5 Re: phase 1 of project is complete on Thu Mar 15, 2018 9:29 pm

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6 Re: phase 1 of project is complete on Thu Mar 15, 2018 9:33 pm

The work on the islands in Illinois was a very special project. Those islands are a very unique natural area which we have considered donating the same as a park, where the grandkids would have life estates in the property, but upon their death it would revert to the public. We would prefer the County or township, as the State of Illinois is totally messed up with Rauner.

We considered doing the same with the Florida property, but so much of our resources have been unnecessarily poured into this project, that I do not want to handcuff my wife from the grave. If you saw the mess this project was right after Ivan, you would be shocked as to what it has become. I thought two years ago I could have shared the same with Bob, but our timetables had been shattered for many reasons.

In regard to liver failure, I wish it was as simple as having some more fight to extend one's life, but the reality is the last two months have become very real as to the power and certainty of endocrine cancer. Steve Jobs ran around and did everything but what the doctors wanted. When he was where I am, he insisted on getting a new liver. Liver transplant happened and he was dead two years later at seven and a half years from discovery of his first tumor. I will be ten years in June since they found the tumor in my lung and removed the same with the upper lobe. I have played sports and poker. You sometimes just lose. No matter the effort, you lose. I am playing the cards and we enjoyed a sunset on Navarre beach around one of those table top propane fire on stones.....nice and toasty as the sun set after a very good meal and an even better day as we finally got her done. I have lost so much muscle and weight that the cold this morning cut right through me. I have to be careful not to get chilled because another battle in my lungs with four marble sized tumors will bring my demise.....but damn it was beautiful tonight.

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7 Re: phase 1 of project is complete on Thu Mar 15, 2018 9:48 pm

I remain in awe of your ability to articulate daily conditions of your body and its changes Mr. Oats . . . . finally what Linda and zman said in spades!

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8 Re: phase 1 of project is complete on Sat Mar 17, 2018 3:03 pm

After three years of working and suddenly having to use the washroom, I no longer have to drive to a restroom in Milton...I have pooped in Milton City hall, Santa Rosa government center, burger king, Macs, Arbys, Fireman subs, Subway, Lowes, Home Depot, Panera Bread, Office Depot, Tractor Supply, etc. etc. etc..........today i went to the bathroom in the Park Model.......I think I will take a shower tonight as we leave early Sunday and celebrate that I actually lived long enough to poop on the project.

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9 Re: phase 1 of project is complete on Sat Mar 17, 2018 3:22 pm

Shocked

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10 Re: phase 1 of project is complete on Sat Mar 17, 2018 3:36 pm

I love Hall's Hardware store in Milton. It has some obscure things you will not find in the big box stores. Unfortunately on a busy Saturday, it took ten minutes of standing around to get some assistance and as I am particularly weak, I thought I was going down this morning. Spent 10 minutes just resting in my car before I pulled out of Halls. I just assumed I could walk around to the last week, but either I am getting damn close to that last week, or I am having a bad day. I was exhausted holding a basket with a 100 feet of wire, some turnbuckles, and bolts. It is amazing how liver failure effects one's muscles.....not like any kind of muscle exhaustion I have experienced in my life....there just comes a point where there is nothing there. Using wire, extension cord, and security camera extension wires to move the cameras out into the property. Now the criminals who have been stealing and vandalizing can be viewed from our cell phones or lap tops in Navarre, or Illinois. Last time my neighbor called the police on trespassers who rutted up the land and got stuck by one of our ponds, he said there were not enough trespass signs on the front of the property. Woman drives over decorative plantings right over a no trespassing signs, and causes about 200 dollars of damage on the property, and the three no trespassing signs were not enough. Maybe if the woman was hungry and looking to fish the ponds for a meal they would have locked her up for four months like they do up in Century to a guy who steals a $21 meal.

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11 Re: phase 1 of project is complete on Sat Mar 17, 2018 3:39 pm

2seaoat wrote:After three years of working and suddenly having to use the washroom, I no longer have to drive to a restroom in Milton...I have pooped in Milton City hall, Santa Rosa government center, burger king, Macs, Arbys, Fireman subs, Subway, Lowes, Home Depot, Panera Bread, Office Depot, Tractor Supply, etc. etc. etc..........today i went to the bathroom in the Park Model.......I think I will take a shower tonight as we leave early Sunday and celebrate that I actually lived long enough to poop on the project.


lol!   lol!    Great post and quite a notable accomplishment in more ways than one.  

Don't like thinking you won't be back here again, but what will be, will be.   Go well tomorrow, be safe and comfortable, let us know when you're back home in IL.

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12 Re: phase 1 of project is complete on Sat Mar 17, 2018 4:35 pm

It is really hard to get cat 6 or cat 5 cable in a hundred feet lengths, HDMI in a hundred feet, or even outdoor 14 guage wire. Smaller lengths are available at local hardware, but it is getting to the point you have to order online for about 70% of what you need anymore even in a specialty hardware store like Halls.

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13 Re: phase 1 of project is complete on Sun Mar 18, 2018 12:55 pm

My mother died this morning. Complications from a myriad of maladies that she was recently hospitalized by. Shocking nonetheless. I'll talk to y'all later.

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14 Re: phase 1 of project is complete on Sun Mar 18, 2018 2:19 pm

I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are for you and your family.

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15 Re: phase 1 of project is complete on Sun Mar 18, 2018 8:52 pm

Very sorry to hear this, Pkr.

I think the loss of a parent (and especially the 'becoming of an orphan' when the last one dies, but even if not the last), is one of the hardest things we have to deal with in life, no matter how elderly or infirm the parent was at the time of death.

Fortunately, I suppose, you have the benefit of a certain maturity and wisdom since your mom didn't leave you until now, but I'm not sure that makes a difference. Only you can say.

I wish you the peace that time can bring.

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16 Re: phase 1 of project is complete on Sun Mar 18, 2018 11:04 pm

Very well stated RLL.

I certainly agree about feeling of being orphaned when you lose a parent(s)

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17 Re: phase 1 of project is complete on Mon Mar 19, 2018 1:16 am

TY for saying, Joani.

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18 Re: phase 1 of project is complete on Mon Mar 19, 2018 8:07 am

So sorry for your loss pkr . . . . . we all cope with loss of our friends, family members, acquaintances but losing your mother . . . . well it leaves us feeling a very unique 'aloneness' . . . . it's a sick sick feeling!

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19 Re: phase 1 of project is complete on Mon Mar 19, 2018 8:37 am

You are so right Knot, aloneness.

Pkrbum we are here for you.

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20 Re: phase 1 of project is complete on Mon Mar 19, 2018 9:10 pm

I am sorry to hear about your loss. It does not get any easier as we get older to lose a parent. May your family find peace, and celebrate her life.

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21 Re: phase 1 of project is complete on Mon Mar 19, 2018 11:18 pm

Thanks y'all. Heading up to her place tomorrow to settle her affairs. Tough days.

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22 Re: phase 1 of project is complete on Tue Mar 20, 2018 1:51 am

PkrBum wrote:Thanks y'all. Heading up to her place tomorrow to settle her affairs. Tough days.

Tough for sure.   Hope the settlement process is not too overly onerous, though obviously it will be no fun at all.  

Seaoat, you old curmudgeon (I can say that 'cause I'm older than you, if maybe not quite as curmudgeonly) -- good to hear from you.  Stay warm up there!

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23 Re: phase 1 of project is complete on Tue Mar 20, 2018 5:36 am

Trip was pretty good, but I got steamrolled in Harrah's Metropolis casino. Shots on Wed. and back on the road. The decline is quite measurable as being a month away from home and trying to get up with grab bars is very pronounced decline. Absent some miracle in my meetings with my oncologist, these labs will better refine the clock.

I lost my mom two years ago, and I miss our Sunday phone conversations. She lived to 90 and had a good life, but it was quite different than when I lost my father at 10. With family, you should never take for granted the time you have with them. It is a very short life.

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24 Re: phase 1 of project is complete on Wed Mar 21, 2018 2:25 am

2seaoat wrote:Shots on Wed. and back on the road.

I can't believe you're gonna make the trip again.  WOW.   Those grandkids have gotta know their grampa really loves 'em.   But still... I'm amazed.  

Good luck with the Wednesday shots and test results.  A miracle would definitely be nice right about now.

As for life's being very short, you sure got that right.

Here's wishing you safe and comfortable travels, returning to our fair state.  Am happy to report the five day weather forecast looks pretty darned sunny, if a little windy for the next couple of days -- but you'll be on the road anyway.

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25 Re: phase 1 of project is complete on Sun Mar 25, 2018 12:49 pm

No miracles as the pain now is pretty intense as my urine darkens and I have difficulty getting flow. I am still able to walk, and I tried to help unload some concrete from the car. We normally get forty pound bags which a month ago I could struggle to take them from the car to a post hole, but my wife went to lowes and got fifty pound bags and I moved one and sat in my plastic chair as I continue to push it to the metal, but there is nothing left. Here is the preliminary floating dock photo. We will build a dock bench which will extend two feet beyond the float and line the the bench box with vinyl where we will fill the bottom of the deck bench box with clay. This will create a stable platform and counterweight to the dock extension weight which creates a floating dock which is stable.

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